You need to work through the difficult emotions and purge yourself of those negative feelings, otherwise, they will keep cycling through you, sabotaging your chances of finding love.You can’t live a satisfying life behind a wall, as comforting as a wall can be. If you are emotionally unavailable, you may unconsciously seek out guys who are emotionally available.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to try to use these disappointments as fuel to become even better.
It can be transformative, and the benefits are immense. During my chronically single years all I could think about was how badly I wanted to be in a relationship.
But before you can enjoy those benefits, you need to be in the right place internally. I focused on my wanting, on the lack of decent, available men, on how hard it is to date in New York City, on how unfair the whole thing is …
Yes, I know that it’s way easier said than done, but happiness isn’t something that just happens. MORE: 11 Ways to Find True Happiness The worst thing you can do is wait around and fill your time with idle pursuits thinking everything will change when a man steps into the picture.
For one thing, being that way will repel the kinds of guys you probably want, and for another, even if that Prince Charming does happen upon you, the relationship will get off to a troubled start. Because in that sort of situation, you’ll be relying on him to fill you with happiness, and this can cause you to act needy and desperate for his approval.